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| A beverage (usually a glass of wine, champagne or the like)
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| Enough time to prepare what you want to say, and then up to three minutes to say it
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| Rehearse at home before the "big moment." Watch yourself in the mirror and try to memorize what you want to say. Keep practicing until you know everything by heart, without having to think about it or pause. At a formal meal, the host often provides the first toast, which welcomes guests and signals everyone to start eating and drinking. Between dinner and dessert, the host toasts the guest of honor (if there is one), who then returns the toast. If it's an informal gathering, the floor then becomes open for additional toasts. Start boldly, without apologizing or saying, "That reminds me of..." Speak loud enough so everyone can hear you. Project your voice toward the person furthest away. Only the person doing the toasting needs to stand, and only if it's a group of more than ten. You don't need to say what the story is about (prior to telling it) or why you're telling it. Don't rely on notes. Have what you want to say memorized. If someone is toasting you, don't raise your glass or drink to yourself. Just smile, nod and accept your praise graciously. Always raise your glass during a toast to someone other than yourself, no matter what you're drinking. |
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I'll drink to that! Joyous occasions call for kind words--and what better way to share them than with a toast? Just a few words or thoughts, spoken from the heart, can spread a feeling of cheer throughout the room--regardless of its size. Whether you've been asked to speak at a special occasion or the moment calls for an impromptu toast, it's always best to be prepared. Lucky for you, it only takes a little effort to be ready, witty and able to make a toast at any given time.
The exact origin of toasting is unknown, but its purpose of promoting good feelings has certainly been enjoyed worldwide throughout history (perhaps over-enjoyed in some cases!). The term "toast" originated in 17th Century England, when it was customary to place a piece of toast or crouton in a drink (usually wine) to enhance the flavor and promote good health. While toasting etiquette has changed over time, the general message remains the same: it's your chance to express your feelings or admiration for someone in a social situation. All eyes and ears will be focused on you, so speak up, be sincere and show everyone just how charming you can be.
What you say will depend entirely on the situation. For example, a toast at an informal meal among a group of friends can be as short as, "Cheers!" or a quick thanks to the host and/or hostess for gathering everyone. If you're asked to speak at a formal occasion (such as a wedding, retirement party or the like), there's a little more to it. Consider why you were asked and start from there. Think about what the person being honored means to you, as well as how many people will be present and how well you know them. Then set the inside jokes aside and come up with something everyone can enjoy. An amusing or heartfelt anecdote is ideal material, especially if it provides enjoyable insights into the person's character (just don't get too personal). Keep anything that's potentially offensive or embarrassing out. Basically, you want to say something the listeners can connect with, and you want to say it well. But sometimes the situation calls for quicker thinking. For example, if someone toasts you, it's appropriate to return the favor. This is when knowing some quotes or favorite toasts will come in handy. Several books containing famous or interesting toasts are available--consider purchasing one and then memorizing a few quick toasts before heading out for social events. You can also find ideas in literature. Write down interesting sayings or quotes you find as you're reading--many famous toasts originated that way.
A toast is meant to spread cheer, so loosen up and smile. If you'll be toasting in front of a group of more than ten listeners, stand up and say, "Can I have everyone's attention please?" Softly clinking your fork against your glass is also common--just don't overdo it (you certainly don't want to break the glass!). If the group is less than ten, it's okay to remain seated. If you're uncomfortable speaking in front of a group, just imagine that you and the person you're toasting are the only ones in the room; you're telling a close friend or colleague what they mean to you in a friendly, engaging way. Using a conversational tone will help you sound natural (not pompous), and will keep listeners interested. When using a quote or a favorite toast, make sure it fits the particular occasion. Steer clear of overused quotes and toasts, and see how creative and original you can be instead.
A toast can be as short as a few seconds or as long as three minutes. Any longer than that and you risk losing your audience. Remember, this isn't a speech and it isn't a roast. It's an informal, festive gesture that's been passed down through the ages. It's meant to be enjoyed by all involved, so try to keep it short and sweet.
You may be tempted to continue once you realize how nice it is to have everyone's attention. Resist this urge, though, and stop when you reach the end of what you've prepared--especially if you've had a few "sips" prior to making your toast. Then just raise your glass toward the person you're toasting and take a sip (your just reward for giving such a great toast). When you're finished, you can introduce the next person (if appropriate). Remain standing until he or she is up before you take your seat. Then just sit down, smile and enjoy the afterglow of words well spoken. -end- 
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