Help, but don't advise. This is the bride's wedding, and for better or worse, the bridesmaid does not have the right of veto.

2torial #0635: Learn2 Serve as a Maid (or Matron) of Honor Make yourself available The perfect MOH is a multi-tasker. You're able to organize a guest list, address envelopes with a handsome cursive and pin a hem in a lacy fabric. Of course, no one's perfect, but be prepared to help not just with the wedding and shower, but also with at least some of the preliminary scut-work. If you find yourself mopping floors or cleaning toilets, remind the bride that you aren't the maid: You're the maid OF HONOR. But do be available in the weeks and months leading up to the wedding to provide relief to the bride and her family. Most of all, you're there for moral support. If you see the bride spinning out of control, actively volunteer your help. Fiancées sometimes have a hard time delegating responsibility. Maybe they are too shy to ask for help, or they are perfectionists who think only they can do it right. Whatever the case, tell her you want to help in any way you can, and if she does not take you up on your offer right away, offer specific times when you're available.   Step 3