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Serve as a Maid (or Matron) of Honor
Maid of honor? Show 'em what you're made
of!
They're supposed to unite two souls in a single
bond, but weddings can engender more dissension
than a congressional tax hike. That's where the
maid (or matron) of honor comes in. As the bride's
closest friend and ally, the maid of honor has a
single objective: make things go as smoothly as
possible. You're there with clear nail polish when
the bride's stockings get a snag; you throw the
bridal shower and remember who brought what gift;
you steer her friend into choosing the most
flattering dress possible; and you might even sew a
hem or two.
Like many events, weddings are growing
increasingly casual these days. However, tradition
demands a certain set of duties from the lucky
person who is chosen to be maid/matron of honor
(we'll refer to the role as MOH). The following
steps outline the essential responsibilities even
the most traditional bride could expect of you. If
you read them before you accept her offer, and
follow them to the best of your ability, you will
show yourself more than worthy of the "honor"
you've been accorded.
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Accept or decline graciously. Your best friend
asks you to be her maid of honor. You are, well,
honored. But before rushing to accept, remember
that she's going to need you for more than just the
big day. You'll be expected to throw a shower,
attend all wedding-related functions and, in
general, play the role of helpmate until the day
she gets hitched (at which time the groom should
take over). That means helping her choose and fit a
gown, devise guest lists--even address
invitations.
How could you say no to your best friend? Well,
you hope you won't have to, but be realistic. If
you know that she's getting married on the weekend
your office closes the books, or you're scheduled
to receive the Nobel peace prize, you must inform
the bride-to-be of your limited availability. She
won't be offended if you make it clear that you
will do all you can. To soften the blow, remind her
that it is well within the rules of even the
strictest etiquette to have two "best women." In
fact, this practice is growing increasingly common,
as careers and family send us scattering to the
four winds.
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