2torial #0634: Learn2 Serve as Best Man Throw a bachelor party In the past, grooms threw their own bachelor parties, but the duty has increasingly fallen on the shoulders of the Best Man. This only makes sense, since then the groom can blame any unforeseen antics on someone else. Here are some tips: Who: Be sure to compile the invitation list with the groom present. You should invite the groom's best male friends and relatives, but double-check that they've also been invited to the wedding! If there is an older or more conservative family member who might not appreciate the sexual flavor of some of the party's activities, plan the event in two stages: first PG, then R (or X). What: It is your job to provide beer, booze and other beverages. Snacks will help stabilize blood-alcohol levels, so keep them on hand. Other activities are up to your discretion (and hopefully you'll show some). Society traditionally turns a blind eye to this last hurrah, but consider the wishes of groom, and to a certain extent, those of the bride, before engaging the services of a lap dancer. Where: The party can be held anywhere: a golf course, your home, the groom's home, his favorite bar, or any combination of these. When: Traditionally, the bachelor party is held the night before the wedding, but that could mean your friend takes his vows under the influence of a wicked hangover (see 2torial #0448 Learn2 Help a Hangover). A more practical option is to hold it the weekend before the wedding. However, those coming in from out of town might have to miss out on the fun. Discuss the various options with the groom.   Step 2